Saturday, November 10, 2012

Taking Ownership of Your Life

"There comes a time in every life when you have to acknowledge areas where you keep having the same problems, such as the same recurring issue in every romantic relationship, or every job situation, etc. You have to be honest and look at the common denominator in each situation, which is YOU. Instead of it always seeing it as "their fault", you have to get rid of the victim mentality and own it, so you can fix it, once and for all. Only when you start taking responsibility for your life can you truly move on and make a new beginning, leaving the past behind."

I posted this original quote not too long ago on Facebook, and couldn't believe the overwhelming response to it. Evidently it really resonated with many people. We all realize that we tend to repeat self-sabotaging behaviors, and usually can see it clearly in other people's lives. Why is it so hard to see the patterns in our own life? I think the ego is very invested in keeping us believing that we are helpless victims, that things are constantly being done to us that we are powerless to stop. The truth is that WE are the creators of our lives, co-creating with the Universe, with our every thought, word and deed.

Most of the time we're pretty much on "auto-pilot", constantly retracing old patterns in our thinking. Our thoughts then create our actions, and our actions create our reality. We have to rise up high enough to see what those patterns are in order to change them. If you have a repetitive thought that you are not good enough, or don't deserve something, this will become a self-fulfilling prophecy, and creates the reality you will experience. We have to become the one observing our thoughts, and then we become the one with the power to change them where necessary. We can observe the negative thought and decide to put it back on the conveyor belt and choose a positive one instead. We are constantly making choices in our lives, and the things that happen are a direct result of those choices. If there is the appearance that someone else is doing something to you, hurting you etc, realize that you have made a choice that has put you in this position, and now you can make a different choice. You are not a victim, YOU have the power!

It's a hard thing to do, to take an honest look at your life and see where you repeatedly make the same bad choice. The important thing to remember is that this is what you came here to do; to learn, and learning requires making mistakes. So be gentle with yourself, forgive yourself for making the same mistake, possibly several times. At least you've gotten it now, and you can move on. And that's a very positive thought!

Love and light.